The story begins with two blogs and two writers, one from Alabama and one from Arizona. We thought it would be cool to write one together as the Lord has brought the two writers together. Josh’s words are the regular print and Kirsten’s are italicized. This is our story.
Sometimes the greatest and most grand adventures that God has formed, happen when we least expect them. The journey our souls long for and are made for can show up in the weirdest, but most intricate and glorious ways.
It all started with re-igniting a passion for writing, one that is in my blood. I have a tendency to make endless paragraphs, due to the massive amount of things flowing out of me constantly. So, I began to search out the best formats I could find, so that anyone who reads won’t see it as a tedious task to read what I have written. Little did know how much this one decision would affect me.
As I began my Google search for just the phrase “wordpress blog,” I felt kind of a need to read some of my results. I glanced at a couple, including a food blog and a game review blog. It wasn’t until the very last one I checked out that something just really struck a chord within my soul.
As I read this final blog, I saw that the writer was seemingly passionate about God, much like I am. So, I felt a push to read more, because I love hearing the perspective of others who love our Creator just as passionately. What began as me just reading and loving a post, quickly turned into getting to a part where the writer had written some things they had dealt with and had spoken to them recently, completely identical to some of the things I had dealt with over the last two years. This was the spark to it all.
The blog I just had encountered hit me on such a deep level, that I felt the Lord just telling me to do something completely crazy and search this writer out, and to contact them. I had no idea why He was pushing me to do it, at the time, but I’ve learned that just because it may not make logical sense doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. When He says to do it, I’ve learned that it always has a purpose He wants to show you.
I’ve been writing a blog for the past few years, ever since I adventured on The Experience. I have had seasons of writing much and others of not so much. Over the years I have had some very dear people in my life encouraging me to keep up with the blog and my writing. The most recent post that I wrote came out of a hard season of knowing that the Lord was present, but not knowing how to hear His voice. It was a frustrating season full of many changes and wrestlings, but in the end stepping out into some things that did not quite make sense and little did I know, the Lord was about to blow things up.
Due to this person’s somewhat unique name combination, and the fact that I use Instagram sometimes more than other social media, I searched them out on Instagram. I came across Kirsten’s page and was instantly blown away. This seemingly powerful woman also happened to be the most beautiful woman I had seen, by far. So, I commented on a photo of hers that I believe best showed off her smile that complimented her joy that seems to flow from Him, through her.
I wrote a super sweet comment and kind of got a casual response, thanking me for the flattery, being understandably guarded about the randomness of me writing that. I kind of felt Yahweh telling me to just comment and wait for a day or two. So, I waited. Before giving her a chance to respond to my last comment I left, I heard His voice as clear as day, telling me to direct message her and tell her everything and to be patient and that she would see. I had no idea what He was referring to on her seeing, but I did it anyways.
It was a Sunday night, I had spent the evening with my roommate working on school work as normal. I remember seeing an Instagram notification pop up on my phone at some point in the evening, but did not open it because I did not recognize the name. Later that evening I went into my room and laid down to go to bed. I did my usually scroll through social media as I laid there and read a comment left on a picture from a few weeks prior from someone named Joshua A. Turner. The flattering comment caught me by surprise and I immediately jumped out of bed and ran into the dining room where my roommate was still up working. I read the comment to her and after me being the skeptical, good-girl Kirsten, she encouraged me to reply with a simple thank you sort of comment. Joshua replied back the next morning, and at this point I was not to sure what to think. I talked to my mom on the way to school that morning and she encouraged me to be very cautious. I arrived at school and decided I that I needed to tell my dear discerning friend and mentor what was going on. She was immediately very skeptical and gave me very wise reasonings as to why. I trusted her and thought there would be nothing more to this guy who had messaged me. Later that day Joshua direct messaged me on Instagram apologizing almost word for word in the things that my friend and mentor had warned me against earlier. At this point I looked to the Lord and said, “what is going on?” With that I began to type a reply back on my phone.
I wrote Kirsten a message, trying to just explain everything, and she responded. Being understandably guarded, she informed me that her messages are short because of not knowing me, which I told her I totally understand, because it’s not every day something like this happens. Through this, I still felt the Lord pushing me to continue to write her and to just see where it goes, and He told me to not be afraid of her having her heart guarded.
It was from this moment that everything took off and changed. With patience, came an understanding and a reminder to keep honoring Him through the conversation.
We began to write more in-depth, just asking the most random things. It’s from here we started to see that we have the weirdest of similarities, like a love for hot sauce and Captain America. We continuously just wrote and got to know each other, little by little.
As we began to talk about church, through a common connection through an evangelist I’ve seen and was under the same spiritual authority as, we realized that we seemed to be on the same level of what we believe, based off of what was shown at face value.
That Monday night we began to message back and forth. I held back a lot of what I could say and kept my replies simple, but it soon becomes obvious to me how much we had in common and how easy it was to talk to Joshua. My roommate Jenn gets home late on school nights and I’m usually about passed out on the couch or already in bed, but not that night. I was wide awake, trying to process what was happening. I was still super skeptical, almost trying to find something wrong, but as hard as I tried, the more I found how cool this guy was and how much I enjoyed talking to him. Days passed as we continued to direct message on Instagram and then Joshua asked if I wanted to plan a time to Skype. I replied with, “yes, I think I would like that.”
So, we made the move to start a Skype session. I had no idea what to expect at first. I mean, the woman I had just told that she was the most beautiful woman I had seen was about to be on Skype with me, after days of messaging each other. To say I was nervous, was a bit of an understatement.
As we began that initial Skype conversation, we learned that we had so much more in common, than just basic things. We talked about some deep things about both of our lives’ and issues we both each had with a parent. It was through this conversation that we both began to realize that everything we both had been praying for in a spouse, was just showing up in each other. This was only just the beginning of it.
We Skyped on an early Saturday afternoon and I didn’t get anything productive done that entire morning. I sat patiently in front of the computer awaiting his call. The computer began to ring and I pressed the green button. Meeting someone for the first time over Skype is a strange thing. I sat in my usual “shy at first” Kirsten state, trying to soak it all in. From what I could tell, I really liked this guy. We talked as long as we could until I had to go; I remember not wanting the conversation to end. Later that day, we talked on the phone for a few more hours and then the next day was the beginning of our hour upon hour Skype dates.
What I had prayed for in a spouse for years and had been patient for as of late, had always seemed like a case of me being too picky, but nothing else made sense to not believe in that in a wife. I just never felt right with even having a thought to settle for less than what I know I longed for and needed, that the Lord had placed in my heart.
I had always wanted someone who is phenomenal with kids, since it’s a sign of a great mother, something I didn’t get to have in my childhood. I prayed for someone who believes the same and is passionate about Yahweh as I am, someone with a love for adventure and travel, a love for coffee, a love for hot sauce and Captain America, someone with a love for either baseball or football. I had longed for someone who I just flow naturally with, a best friend, someone who points me always back to Him. As much as I love punk and hardcore, I wanted someone who had a love for worshipping our Creator and loved worship as much, because my heart in music has always been within worshipping my Father. Kirsten was all of this perfectly, among other small details I would joke about having in a wife, but not being totally serious.
Something my Apostle at my church that had struck me as recognizing my wife would be that we both would know from the beginning. By the point of our initial Skype session, we both had realized this and agreed that we both knew this was it. It’s just something we both knew, even though it’s weird trying to describe it, because He instills so much through it and makes it so amazing, it’s hard to put into words.
As Joshua and I continued to get to know each other I was amazed by how many things I had prayed for that were apparent in him. Even little things that I had joked around about. My family has found it amusing to find out some of these silly little things because they have heard me joke about it over the years.
After a couple of Skype sessions that all lasted around 3 to 4 hours, we came to the decision for me to fly out around my birthday, to Kirsten in Arizona, then both of us going to New Mexico to see my dad and sister and because I hadn’t taken a vacation since returning from Afghanistan in 2012. I booked the flights, in anticipation of what was ahead, not knowing exactly how things were going to go.
All the emotions. Those are the words that I’ve used to describe so much on this journey. Joshua was coming to Arizona and I was going to get to meet him in person! At this point it seemed as if things in the world’s eyes were moving very quickly. Most of the time I did not question in the least bit what the Lord was up to, but every once in a while when the apprehension tried to sneak in my mom, family, friends, and support system were (and still are) so encouraging.
After a couple weeks of Skyping nightly for hours on end and phone calls in the mornings after a morning sweet text, we hit the week of flying out before my birthday. I went through some circumstances out of my control that led to losing my job as an IT Systems Administrator in Mobile on that Monday. It was at this point, we began to pray for what to do. Due to the loss of my job and the lack of IT jobs in Mobile, I knew that I was going to more than likely have to move at least out West, near my dad, to get back on my feet financially.
After prayer and peace about it, and because the flight was already booked, this turned into my moving of everything I have, to Phoenix, to be with Kirsten and live with her family until I have my own car and place. That within itself is a huge blessing and I’m more than thankful for her and her family and am honored to have that opportunity. Interestingly enough, this was one of the many examples of the Lord answering desires of our heart, because we both realized how much Skype is cool, but how being closer would be ten million times better.
I have had to learn how to trust in such a deeper way. Trusting the Lord and trusting the Lord in and through Joshua. The Lord blows my mind. He has given such an incredible peace each step of the way.
After setting everything in motion and shipping my gorilla box and giving old clothes to Goodwill and a Military surplus store, I flew out. It was probably the longest time of flying, because of wanting to be in Phoenix, but the anticipation was worth it. I landed, and we saw each other for the first time. It became the most powerful moment I’ve ever had with anyone, and the moment that we both knew for sure. When you know, you just know, and unless you know what we mean, it’s hard to explain.
The day that Joshua flew out was one of the longest days of my life. I walked into work that morning with all of my co-workers shouting “today is the day.” I got to the airport super early and waited. I had no idea what this moment was going to be like. Seeing Joshua for the first time was like a fairy-tale moment. I knew. It was natural. My best friend was home.
Throughout this intricate and crazy story of proving how faithful Yahweh is in everything and how He listens to even the smallest of details, everything still points to His writing of this.
Everything about Kirsten in detail, is everything I’ve ever wanted in a wife, and more. She’s strong, loving, patient, kind, fierce, full of His fire, and she always helps point everything back to Him, and she wants to go even deeper with Him. To tell you how much of an honor it is to get to by her side and to change the world with her, I still wouldn’t be able to explain how excited I am.
The Lord leaves me in awe each and every day. I wake up sometimes having to make sure that all of this is real. Joshua points me towards the Lord every single day. Getting to go to church with him is so much fun. Watching him bond with my brothers and family makes my heart so happy. He is the best adventure partner, a gentleman, kind, understanding, funny, discerning, and most of all a man after the Lord’s heart.
If anything, we want the Lord to use this story to inspire others. We want to show everyone that He definitely hears your deepest desires and will answer them to the smallest of details and more, if you’re willing to trust Him and take the chances He places before you.
Our story is not about us, it’s about the Lord and how awesome He is and how faithful He is. For those who dare to believe deeper and to go after everything He’s placed in your heart, go that deep and be patient. Sometimes He might make those happen at the times you least expect, but never give up, no matter what it takes.
“But you, O Lord, are a God merciful and gracious, slow to anger and abounding in steadfast lave and faithfulness.” Psalm 86:15